Came across this bumper sticker today
Jeremiah 29:11 NLT
“For I know the plans I have for you,” says the lord . “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.”
Bringing life into this world is bringing a future into this world. For me, bringing life into this world gave me hope.
Without a doubt I always say that my baby “A” (I won’t use his real name for privacy purposes) was my saving grace. He gave me meaning, he gave me purpose, he gave me a drive to have a future. Really God gave me my saving grace. He chose me out of this whole world to be the mother of this child. God knew what my future held despite my poor choices and he STILL wanted me to have a better life.
Today I really feel his blessings because of recent turn arounds and being able to receive his blessings. I don’t deserve any of it, yet he blesses me (and you!). That’s the beauty in God’s love, it’s unconditional and free flowing.
I was harboring worry and frustration over a situation that I needed to give to God. I saw this bumper sticker and I realized/got reminded of…”God is there in our future”. He has the blessings at hand. He will take care of us, just as every living creature on this earth. We don’t have to worry. It’s done. It’s okay. Take a breath. He’s got this.
I entered into motherhood because of poor choices but yet there was a blessing out of it. I changed my self destructive behavior and became more conscious of having to be responsible for someone else.
Although I tried for a few years to retain a relationship with the biological father I realized I couldn’t force anything that was not wanted. I was in love with the idea that I could reform this person and we would be “the couple that made it through” to become a happy family. Part of this was probably stemmed from my childhood and how my parents remained together when I became part of the picture. If they could do it, why couldn’t we? They weren’t the best role models but I believed we could use that to do better. Obviously that wasn’t the greatest of ideas.
I had to break free from the cycle. I had to realize that I was in a downward spiral. He kept pulling me down. The devil was happy, I was tangled in his lies. I believed I didn’t deserve to be treated properly. I didn’t think anyone would want me AND a child. These were some of my darkest, loneliest times. I couldn’t call on my family, I couldn’t call on my friends. I was ashamed at my situation. I couldn’t keep telling them the same old story of he was awful to me and we broke up. It wasn’t fair to them to drag them into my drama. He lied, he stole and he cheated. I still didn’t know my worth. He stole all of my money to gamble away and I moved back home to live with my parents, yet wasn’t really ready to sever ties. It’s almost disgusting to think how the devil convinced me of how little my value was. I hadn’t endured “enough”. I thought “You have to fight for love right”?
I frequently visited with him and spent weekends with him in seedy hotels because he had no stable home. We pretended to play house in temporary living arrangements. There seemed to be no way out.
I soon became stable on my own after working and saving some money. I was able to aquire a new job and an apartment just for me and my baby. Long story short, I continued the relationship until I finally had enough. I could not handle anymore of the lies. I finally cut the ties. He had gifted me a bracelet for Christmas and I took it back to the store and exchanged it for a ring. With that ring I made a promise to myself NEVER to make the same mistake. I had finally gotten some light on my value and it was time to move along for the sake of my son.
As a single mom we stress about the future because it seems so grim. Statistics are against not only us, but our children. Life can feel hopeless and as if there is nothing we can do to prevent the inevitable. We feel like failures to our children. We carry the guilt for our fatherless children. We don’t see a future.
Just remember: Jeremiah 29:11 NLT
“For I know the plans I have for you,” says the lord . “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.”
God won’t leave you hanging, I promise because he certainly didn’t leave me hanging.